When you are standing in your own personal power you are confident, consistent, and productive. Giving away your personal power sabotages your chances of success. When you give your personal power away you diminish your mental strength and derail yourself from your goals. There are several ways you might be leaking your power. You might not even realize you’re doing it.
Signs of leaking your power include:
- Giving in to guilt trips. If you really don’t want to do something, be strong enough to stick to your choices, even when someone tries to take you on a guilt trip.
- Self-worth is tied to other people’s opinions of you. Not everyone is going to like you. But, you don’t have to let one person’s opinion define who you are or how you feel about yourself.
- Difficulty setting boundaries. You get to decide who to allow into your life. If you grow resentful of people who take up too much of your energy, it’s a sign you aren’t setting clear boundaries.
- Complaining about all the things you have to do. You decide how to spend your time. No one forces you to go to an event or attend that family gathering.
- Hold grudges. Whether someone hurt you yesterday or 10 years ago, holding a grudge allows that person to take up more space in your life.
- Changed your goals based on other people’s opinions. Changing course just because someone doubts your abilities gives that person power over your life.
- Hypersensitive to criticism. Feedback from other people can be instrumental in helping you become your best. But, if you value other people’s input too much, you may avoid doing anything that could lead to criticism.
- Other people have the ability to bring out the worst in you. If you allow someone else to cause you to get so angry you say or do things you later regret, or you succumb to pressure to do something against your values, you give away your power.
- Spending a lot of time talking about people that you don’t like. Every minute you spend thinking about someone you don’t like or complaining about someone you don’t want to be around is 60 more seconds you give that person.
- Other people determine the kind of day you’re going to have. The kind of day you’re going to
Commit to becoming the driver—rather than the passenger—in your life. Take back your power. Decide that you’re going to be in control of how you think, feel, and behave regardless of the situation you find yourself in. For support in taking the steps required do touch base.
All the best,
Marie-Helene